One of the most difficult aspects of being the wife of a pastor (or "assistant college pastor")has been having the ability to be free and open with my schedule and plans. Can we go to a cookout tonight that we just found out about 5 minutes ago? Technically, yes. But what about the chicken I took out of the freezer last night? The next chance we'll have to cook it is Thursday, and I don't trust raw chicken to last that long. And I was planning on getting groceries tonight. We need groceries. I HAD PLANS TONIGHT. No, they may not seem important to you, but to me, they are, because I get really into my plans. I like stability; I like to know what's going on. And it's hard for me to just up and change things at the drop of a hat.
I'm getting better at it though. I've been dealing much better with the craziness of this semester than I have the past two years. Did I throw a fit that Thursday's date night got cancelled because of 635 preparations? No, I didn't. That's pretty big for me. Instead of whining and complaining and sighing real loud, I took advantage of the opportunity to get tomato basil soup from Jason's deli and spend a relaxing evening with my fun puppies. And am I throwing a fit about tonight's cookout? No, I'm not. At least, not too badly.
So I'm learning and growing. But I still hate change, and I'm still a pretty big stick-in-the-mud when it comes to most things. But I'm trying. And that means somthing, doesn't it?
4 comments:
That is hard to get used to...unfortunately, the church sometimes demands people to drop all prior commitments for the church. There's some kind of line in there to be drawn. I work for our church and my hubby & I really value our time together. So, I have to draw major boundaries and say "I had a prior commitment" (even if it's to eat dinner with my husband & watch tv). Paul says if we can't take care of our own family, we shouldn't be in charge of the church. This is no comment on your husband but something I quote at times to my own pastor to let him know that family is a priority that must remain above work. The line in there that's hard is that Christ is top priority and we are working technically for the church. So a lot of times that is mixed up between priorities.
I don't know what to say except I feel your frustration and I, too, get very very angry when my plans or stability is changed. I don't do well with that.
You aren't wrong for what you feel is I guess what I'm saying.
Rebecca...how do you know Mindy? Mindy...how do you know Rebecca. I'm confused by this coincidence. Is it b/c of Karen and Christy?
-Sommer :)
Haha... we just know each other through blogs... she found mine through Karen :)
sommer, didn't you know there's a club? i'm kidding. all the fun of blogging.
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